I was sitting in
a church training session. It was a meeting called for a Saturday for church
officers, staff, and ministry leaders. We had a guest speaker – a nationally
known minister from one of the main Bible Belt cities.
He didn’t have a
reputation as Joe Cool, but that’s what he was projecting. Tattered jeans,
sandals, speaking in that slightly sardonic way that connotes superiority. I
looked around to see if I was the only one reacting this way, and I could see
that I wasn’t. People were surprised, a little shocked, disappointed.
And then he
dropped a couple of four-letter words so casually that it was clear this was
how he talked. Hip. With-it. Cool. Relevant.
Because we were
polite, no said anything or made a stir. He was a friend of one of our pastors.
We should be modeling hospitality.
Fortunately, the
meeting broke up not long afterward.
On my way home,
still somewhat upset, a driver in front of me pulled a dumb maneuver that could
have ended badly. I yelled a word I shouldn’t have yelled. The windows were up,
so no one heard me. Well, no one, that is, except me and the Lord.
It wasn’t “as
bad” as I had heard at the meeting, but I can’t quibble here. It was still the
wrong thing to come out of my mouth.
And it didn’t
excuse the visiting minister and what he had said. But it was a rather
immediate reminder that I could fall prey to the exact same problem, even if
the reasons were different. I wasn’t trying to be relevant or cool; I was
angry. But it was still wrong.
I was
exemplifying the behavior of the traditional Pharisee – condemning vulgar
speech while essentially doing the same thing (“at least I wasn’t speaking to a
roomful of people in ministry”). Our visiting minister was exemplifying the
behavior of a “reverse Pharisee” – showing he could be just as relevant to the
culture as anyone else, and indirectly suggesting he was more “with it” than
the people he was speaking to.
But we were both
still being Pharisees.
Led by Jason
Stasyszen and Sarah Salter, we’re discussing The Discipline of Grace. To see other posts on this chapter, “The
Pharisee and the Tax Collector,” please visit Sarah at Living Between the Lines.